Category Archives: Parenthood

To honor The Crazy, I will make sure I mention Tom in every post. (Tom is MAKING me do it)

Andrew is at an Angels (SUCK) game with his uncle.
Ethan is at the movie theatre with his dad.
I am at home all alone, finally able to rest after cleaning the house, whilst trying to keep Gabby from making more of a mess.

And? Trying to keep her from breaking and eating all of my cd’s.
I bet Tony thinks he is having more fun than I am.
HA! Nothing is more fun than trying to keep a snaggle toothed baby from eating my rather sucky collection of CD’s and having her YELL AT ME when I ask her nicely to “STOP PUTTING THOSE IN YOUR MOUTH, CHILD!”
Try not to be jealous because you’re wishing you were me right now instead of “out dancing” or “laughing it up whilst sipping on wine with friends” or “boinking” or “drinking down your vitamins with tom cruise.”
We can’t all live la vida loca like me. You know that.

The farts decieved me.

I often wonder what kind of a “girl” Gabby will be.
When I watch her play with her brothers, I’m convinced she’s going to be quite the Tom Boy, just like I was. She’s tough, she’s bossy and she’s very loud, which, in my opinion, all scream “TOMBOY!”
And this makes me very happy. Boys are what I know. Dirt. Rocks. Bloody knees. Poop jokes. Balls. These are the things I am familiar with, that I have come to know and love.
But yesterday, I discovered Gabby has an extremely “Girly” side.

She HATED the grass. She was like “What IS this itchy stuff touching my soft, delicate skin?”

She wanted so badly to crawl to where I was sitting, but she refused to put her hands on the ground and touch the grass.
“Stop that Gabby! It’s just grass! Stop being such a GIRL!” I begged of her.
I’m actually afraid of her turning out to be girly girl, because, I don’t know how to handle that crap!
She finally got the nerve to crawl to where I was sitting, but SHE HATED IT and spent the next 5 minutes trying to remove EVERY LITTLE PIECE OF GRASS from her body.

It’s quite possible baby boys hate grass too and that I’m making her hatred of grass into something it isn’t, but the way she whined and the faces she made had “I’m a princess who doesn’t like to get dirty because she’s too pretty to get dirty”
AND I CAN’T DEAL WITH A PRINCESS IN MY HOUSE.
Her farting skills had led me to believe she was going to be The Ultimate Tomby, but underneath all of that explosive gas, I do believe there is a Prissy Girly Girl waiting to be set free.

And where there is love? There is CHEESE.

I’m in my room folding clothes and my husband is in the bathroom giving Gabby a bath.
He’s singing to her. Halfway through the song she starts squealing, splashing and laughing. He stops singing and says, “I love you so much little girl. You’re SO CUTE.”
He starts singing again and she begins to hum along with him.

It’s moments like this that I’ll cherish for the rest of my life. The little moments, the ones that I so often don’t pay attention to. The ones that I need to start paying more attention to.
For it is in moments like this that I realize, it doesn’t matter that I didn’t go to college. It doesn’t matter that I don’t have a fancy house, or drive a new car. It doesn’t matter that I’m not a size 5 anymore.

I have this amazing family. And we all love each other so much.
No matter what. There’s always love in this house.
Always.
That’s what matters.
(p.s. why didn’t someone warn me that having a baby girl would turn me into a pile of mush who cried all of the time about every little thing?!)

The girl knows how to get what she wants.

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Today I made my first real attempt to fix Gabby’s hair all pretty. As you can see, it didn’t turn out very pretty at all.
The reason?
My boobs.
She was standing in her crib, I was standing facing her, with no shirt on, just a bra. A nursing bra. A nursing bra with snaps in the front.
As I attempted to put the baretts in her hair, she was attempting a little experiment of her own. The girl was trying to figure out how to how to unsnap the bra.
She grabbed. She grunted. She pulled. She grunted some more. And then, finally… “POP!” And out came the boob.
She let out the loudest “EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE” I’ve ever heard and did a little victory dance. (Which I have to admit, was totally precious)
She got lucky, I thought.
Yeah, right. As soon as I snapped it back up and resumed combing her hair, she unsnapped it again.
“EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE” She squeeled, again.
“I’m trying to make you look pretty, you big stinky! Leave my boobs alone! PLEASE! Stop the insanity!”
Psh. As if. “POP”.
That was it. The girl had figured out “the system” and she wasn’t going to stop. I went and put a shirt on.
Gabby didnt’ like that. At all.

“You won’t leave my boobs alone, I’m not going to fix your hair pretty. You get to go to the doctors with jacked up hair!”
SO TAKE THAT, LITTLE BRA UNSNAPPER!
I had a revelation as she was ripping my bra off. Infact my inner voice spoke to me. “I think it’s time you wean the girl, because, it’s only a matter of time before she starts ripping your shirt off in public whilst screaming ‘I WANT BOOBIE NOW!!'”
Gabby’s pediatrician told me it might be time to start weaning her and start introducing her to whole milk (and I didn’t even tell her about the bra incident!) She’s not gained much weight since the last visit and she said that it could be because my milk supply is dwindling.
I think she might be right, but I’m not sure about the whole milk thing before a year. She said it’s ok, as long as I introduce it slowly. I want to believe her, but I noticed she doesn’t wash her hands for 30 seconds, which leads me to believe she doesn’t watch Oprah.
And really, what kind of a mother would I be if I trusted the opinion of someone who doesn’t watch Oprah?

Weeping cheese

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That’s me and my boys at 4am this morning.
They left for a weekend camping trip with their dad.
I can’t believe how incredibly sad I feel at this moment.
An entire weekend without my boys. Last night, after dealing with hours of listening to them fight, you think I’d be happy! You think I’d be all “yay! an entire weekend of no fighting!” But I’m not.
I could have went with them, but I didn’t think Gabby would like sleeping in a cold tent.
Wow, I can’t believe how incredibly easy it was to blame it on Gabby. Even easier than blaming her for my farts. The truth is I hate camping. H-A-T-E I-T. I wouldn’t hate it if we had a motor home. A warm place to sleep where you can lock the door and pee on a clean toilet. But sleeping on the ground with the possiblity of a bear or snake creeping up on you?
No thanks.
I’ll probably regret it one day. Not going and enjoying the great outdoors with my family. Infact? I’m regretting it this very minute.
Because I already miss them.
Deeply.
I cried when they drove off, I’m still crying now, and I’ll probably still be crying when I crawl into my bed tonight without getting kisses from the three boys who I love the most.
::update::
When I wrote that? I had been up since 4am. And I was tired.
I think The Tired clouded my feelings.
I mean, I miss them quite a bit. And I sort of wish I was there with them.
BUT!
I don’t have to cook for three days!
I don’t have to clean up after anyone but me and Gabby!
I don’t have to break up any fights!
I don’t have to hear the phrase “I’m bored”!
I don’t have to threaten to “sell a playstation2 on ebay”!
Just me! And Gabby! And a $20 bill! All weekend long!
What a difference 2 hours of sleep make.

Picture Perfect Cheese.


It’s an absolutely beautifully perfect day today. It reminds me why we choose to live here, and Lord knows I need remindin’ sometimes. The traffic. The high cost of living. The unaffordable homes. At times I want to pack up and move to Texas, but then a day like this comes along and I’m all “hell no! I won’t go!”

I took Gabriella to the park so we could enjoy the beautiful sunshine .

I couldn’t justify staying in this dark, dusty house when there was sunshine, green grass and pretty little birdies singing outside. (It’s been a LONG time since I hit you with The Cheese. You will take The Cheese and you will LIKE IT!)

She loved laying on the grass. But not as much as I loved watching her.
And taking pictures of her. Lots and lots of pictures of her. My God, she is a beautiful baby.
After we were through playing in the wet, cool grass, we walked over to the playground. I wanted to put her in the baby swing and see if she’d enjoy it or if she’d freak out.

She loved it.
She laughed. She squeeled. She kicked her feet. It was incredible to watch.

And yes, I totally cried. Right there at the park while pushing her swing. I couldn’t get over how precious my daughter is.

After much swinging and laughter and quite a bit of farting, we went on a little walk so I could get some exercise in. It wasn’t long before the excitement of the day got to Gabby and she was ready for a nap.
We came home, I kissed her on her cheek and thanked her for a glorious day, then I went to my room, got on my knees and thanked God for knowing I needed her and giving her to me.

Psycho mom strikes again


We’re having a bit of a “facial enlargement due to a severe infection of the tooth” over here. Anyone who knows me would know that this means that I am in full freak out mode. (For the record? The swelling has gotten worse and his eye is almost swollen shut now. I swear I’m not exaggerating one bit!)
Ethan started crying on Sunday complaining of severe pain. I called TWO dentists (his old pediatric dentist and our new piece of crap, don’t know how to keep his office clean dentist). Both of their voicemails said “if this is in emergency, we WILL call you RIGHT BACK.
I must be dumb because I thought that meant they’d call me right back or something, but apparently, that was “code” for “we won’t call you back EVER” because neither one of them called back!
This morning I was awoken by a crying boy with HALF OF HIS FACE SWOLLEN. I did what I normally do when I see one of my offspring with a swollen body part and I FREAKED THE HELL OUT.
When am I going to stop doing this? As their mother, it is my job to make them feel like everything is going to be ok and they’re not going to die or have to get half of their face chopped off. But every single time, I turn into MY mother, the mother who went made us take my brother to the neighbors house with a finger hanging on by a piece of skin because she freaked out when she saw the blood. That was the example I had of how a mother is supposed to handle blood and swollen faces, so, I blame her.
I calmed down and got a grip, until Ethan started THROWING UP.
That is when I called Tony at work demanding he come home because throwing up + facial swelling of half of his entire face = emergency. I don’t DO emergencies by myself. It’s in The Contract.
I had no idea Ethan wouldn’t be the only one chucking up puke. I caught a glance of son emptying the cup he had filled with his PUSSY,BLOODY SPIT into the sink and WHOMP! There went a little throw up in the dentist’s office.
I swear I’m a great mother as long as my kids aren’t swollen anywhere, bleeding from their heads, puking or SPITTING PUS INTO A CUP.
I’m currently administering antibiotics, motrin, icepacks and lots of love to poor baby and in 10 days, I will be taking him back to the dentist for a tooth extraction.
The joys of parenting, they never cease to end.

She learned from a pro

Gabby when she gets what she wants…

Gabby when she does NOT get what she wants…

What she wants…

Not what she wants…

And my family has THE NERVE to call her a spoiled brat.
That’s pretty much exactly what my temper tantrums look like. When Tony brings home the wrong kind of drink from Starbucks, Lord have mercy!
I’m all happy when I first see the cup!
“Yay! A frap!”
Then I realize they forgot the extra caramel and I’m all “I aint drinking that stupid piece of crap drink! I will throw it down the drain!”
My sister and I used to have a name for the anger we feel when people don’t get our food orders right. It’s called “Squish the Foam”.
You see, one day Tony went to get us a frozen yogurt. We gave him our order and he came back with THE WRONG SIZES! We wanted larges and he got smalls. SMALLS! . We were both pissed, but didn’t want to say anything because, well, it was really nice of him to get it for us. I sat there, looking at this stupid piece of crap SMALL yogurt and I lost it. I started to squeeze the Styrofoam container as hard as I could. The yogurt oozed out of the cup, all over my hands and dropped onto the table. We both started laughing uncontrollably at how stupid we were acting because we didn’t get larges! We have “issues” with food, obviously and there have been many times since that incident in which we’ve called each other on the phone to talk about “A Squish The Foam” incident we had experienced that day.
Have you ever had a Squish the Foam moment? You were looking forward to eating something and when you brought the food home, the order was totally screwed up and you didn’t want to eat it because you were SO PISSED that it wasn’t exactly what you wanted?
I have a feeling me and my sister are crazy and just may be alone on this issue.