It’s Going to Be Okay. But Only After I Get Very Drunk and Cry A Lot.

Today is one of the worst days of my life.

I’m in shock. I’m scared. And unsure of my future.

My position with the company I’ve loved and been loyal to for over 6 years has been eliminated effective immediately.

I do not know my next steps will be at the moment. But I can tell you that I plan to drink a lot of wine this weekend, wallow in the suck and then get to work on Monday to figure my life out.

I keep telling myself that I will be okay, but I’m not so sure how bills will get paid and how I will take care of my family after the savings runs out.

One thing I’ve learned about myself over the past six years is that I’m smarter than I believed, I am stronger than I think and that I am surrounded by wonderful people who I know will be here for me, to help me find my way.

18 thoughts on “It’s Going to Be Okay. But Only After I Get Very Drunk and Cry A Lot.

  1. Suebob

    My team got laid off in 2009. There were 13 of us, and they were left with 5. Those of us who got axed all ended up in jobs we like that pay more than we got before. Don’t be afraid. You’re smart, capable, and any company would be lucky to have you. PLUS you have ONE MILLION contacts. So after the wine binge, put your social media skills to work. I have a feeling it will go well for you.

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  2. Debbie A-H

    I’m so sorry. Unfortunately, I know how you feel. I lost my job of 24 years in April. It’s tough, but you will get through it. I’ll say some prayers for you.

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  3. tracy

    i know all too well what you are going through. I got laid off July 31st after FOURTEEN YEARS at the same company. I’ve never been unemployed IN MY LIFE!!! I am three weeks in and switch between anxiety attacks and excitement and fear several times a day. I am worried about all of those same things you are and am feeling like I won’t be good enough for any company dumb enough to hire me!

    I know that’s just my fear talking, so I’m trying to shut it down.

    I’ve found that by reaching out to old coworkers, and friends, people have been MORE THAN SUPPORTIVE and have networked me into a couple opportunities that I am pursuing.

    Sigh.

    Hoping I will look back on this when I am safe and successful in my next job as a great thing and something that grew me as a person and taught me that I have an inner strength i never knew i had.

    until then……WINE!

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  4. Patt

    I’m so sorry to hear about your job loss. In the hopes that this makes you feel better, when my father was abruptly laid off after 25 years with the same company he was so shaken up that my parents were considering selling their newly purchased home and moving back to the midwest! Yikes. What he ended up doing was starting his own business, loving it, and making more money than he would have if he had not been laid off. He said it was the best thing that could have happened to him. My ex-husband experienced similar results (3 times!). Every time going onto bigger and better positions. In fact, he was laid off in April and was just recently hired by another company for the dream position that he longed for (but was never able to achieve) with his previous employer. Sometimes change, albeit scary, can lead to so much more. Hang in there. I’m crossing my fingers for things good you!

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  5. Deidre

    I am sorry to hear this. It’s harder when it is a job and company you enjoyed. It happened to me and I was devastated. What SueBob said is right, you have a huge network. This will suck for a while and then it will get better. Don’t let the panic push you to taking the first thing offered.

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  6. Y Post author

    I kind of wish I had waited a few days to process my Feeeeelllliinnngs before posting this. But I didn’t and so it’s out there. I’ve never been laid off before and was not prepared for the emotions, panic and fear that I felt the minute I knew it was over and I was unemployed. A few days has allowed me some perspective. This feels like the worst thing that has ever happened to me, but I hope to make it the best thing that has ever happened to me. Or something like that.

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  7. Y Post author

    And for the record, I have yet to drink any wine. Because we have been out of wine for a long time and well, maybe it’s better that way.

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  8. Chrisor

    I’m sorry this happend to you. It’s not only the change, but the FORCED change that’s hard. You don’t get a say and it’s so out of the blue. Once you can wrap your head around it, you’ll realize you’re in a better position than many and will be able to bounce back. I hope you find a new job you love with people you enjoy being with! You’re already pretty darn strong but this experience will only make you stronger. Rooting for you all the way! :-)

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  9. BeaGomez

    Immediately? Geeze, what a jerk move. Apply for Un-employment right away. After 6 years, you better get severance.

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  10. Blogtastic

    You have 2500+ posts in “uncategorized”. And you were managing social media for a company that is supposedly teaching people how to blog?

    Okay then.

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  11. Meg

    Oh, man. Last summer, my company folded, and I spent my first few weeks of unemployment thinking about all the celebrations + family events that I missed because of work, and kicking myself for being loyal to a company that abruptly cut us all. Gah! Anyway, this is a super rough time for you, but hopefully you will find something new very soon!

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